Sunday, August 5, 2012

What's All The Griping About, Anyway? ~ Sunday Tippets, Damsel Style

Complain, Complain, Complain...

Have you ever noticed how some people complain a lot?

No matter what you say, some people will argue or find fault with everything...

I don’t mean the friends or relatives who always seem to have some health issue or money problem to gripe about, though that’s part of it. I mean the people who seem to find the negative in anything, no matter what it is, and they’ll talk your ear off if you give them a chance.

Some people are just glass-half-empty kind of people.   Yes, some things are difficult and challenging but this is life.  You will usually get out of it depending on what you put into it.  I have always believed that.  The challenges we have aren't "interruptions" to life, they are part of life.  Why complain?

That’s not to say I haven’t ever complained.   I have, in fact, plenty of times.  When I look back at my life, I find that whenever I was having a really rough time, I’d have a tendency to find fault with various things more than I normally would. I saw the pattern, and I started to catch myself because I didn’t like it. It didn’t feel good. I still see it crop up from time to time, but I put a zipper on it and take a look at what’s going on. Why speak of it? What for? Why feed a flame of negativity?  I have to remember that I have a choice.  I have a choice to entertain negativity and complaints or not.  I have a choice in how to respond—or not.

I can smile kindly, listen to someone’s complaints, and
choose how to respond. I can listen, I can validate, I can empathize, and I can commiserate. I can help by problem-solving if asked, and I can brainstorm for solutions. But I don’t have to spend a lot of time with it if all the person wants to do is gripe, especially when there’s no solution to the problem at hand or if it’s really not a big problem in the first place. At least not to me.

The world is neutral. It is not positive or negative, good or bad. We put our interpretations on it, we can see things as good luck or bad, and we can make a choice about what we focus on and what we talk about. We make it what it is, and we have power in our words. 


Sunday Tippet  ~ Ways to stop the "griping" and make things more positive in your life:
  • Recognize abundance

  • Look for possibilities

  • Unleash your energy to fix what's wrong

  • Ride the changes

  • Take yourself to your edge

  • Be your best for the world

  • Tomorrow morning, arise out of bed and say to yourself...Today is going to be a great day!!  

    Who are you in this picture???


    1. Great commentary on life Emily! I wish more people would "accentuate the positive" and let the negative bullshit go!

    2. Whatchumean Willis? I'm Oscar the grump, you know that. I can't help it...the world sucks!

      1. Howard ~ You are the only one I know that can get away with it! You are a great grump... = )

    3. I'll go with the Cookie Monster. Life is to be consumed, enjoyed and who care about a few crumbs!!!

      1. Rod ~ A Midgeman with a few crumbs gives you character... Heck, enjoy and clean up later! Ha!

    4. Well, I thought I was Oscar the Grouch, but, Howard claimed that one. What's up with that? How come he gets to be the Grouch? That is not fair!!

      Then, Midgeman, wants to be the Cookie Monster. What's up with that? I love "cookies", I need cookies, where's the cookies? Next time I want to be first to make a choice of who I want to be, Ok, is that Ok?

      I could have chosen "Big Bird". I have him on a key chain hanging on the hook in the other room. Crap, face it there is nothing "big" about me at all. That won't work. How come I can't be Oscar the Grouch or the Cookie Monster?

    5. Mel ~ Now, that is a whole lot of "complaining" there!!! I will tell you what... the three of you have claimed to be brothers from another mother. So, you can double up on one character...if you want to be a cookie eating be it! Lol.

    6. Life's too short, and we all have our moments...that being said, when you think about it, there is a lot more to smile about than not.